Questions for My Husband

 I wonder, what did you think about when you were a little boy?

What made your heart leap,

what filled you with joy and wonder?


What thoughts filled your head?

What were your greatest hopes and fears?

How did it feel when a wish came true?

How did it feel when a friend hurt your feelings?


What made you happy,

and who did you turn to when you were sad?

What did you think about your life,

and how did you imagine your future?


What did you love most about birthdays?

What food could you eat forever?

What movie did you watch a million times?


Sometimes, it's easy to feel like we know a person;

like a snapshot of one moment 

encapsulates everything about their soul.

But you were a whole person before we met

and, everyday, you reimagine a little piece of yourself.

And maybe, knowing these things

will help me to really see the man you are.




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